Before I met Christina, I was worried about my relationship. Nervous that everything was about to fall apart. Uncertain of what I wanted or how to fix things. I thought maybe I wanted to end things with my partner but I didn’t understand why. I tried talking to friends, talking to my personal therapist, and did a lot of journaling. Nothing worked! I’ve never worked through such a big obstacle before with my partner. We didn’t know what to do to move forward in our relationship let alone have a fulfilling one. After talking to Christina, I knew I could trust her because she was so skilled at what she does. I knew she could point us in the right direction. During my initial call with Christina, it was just her and I without my partner. She asked me some big questions and within 30 minutes we had found the root of the problem. I had been mulling over this for weeks, had talked about it in therapy multiple times, but in talking with Christina for 30 minutes, it became clear that the world wasn't ending, but that I was dealing with trauma from my partner's behavior which was causing me to want to throw away my relationship. I had no idea what an impact that was having on my relationship and Christina helped me identify it and showed me how that root issue was causing all of the subsequent challenges we were facing. It was such a lightbulb moment that has truly saved my relationship.
After our initial call, Christina met with my partner and I together. She helped us talk through our challenges in a structured way. She not only helped us through a tough conversation, but taught us how to continue having these conversations in the future. We learned how to open a heavy conversation and how to honor the other person's capacity to hold space for that conversation. She also taught us how to be clear on our expectations of one another and to not commit to something unless we truly plan to follow through. This has eliminated a lot of uncertainty and allowed us to have open and honest conversations. We plan to keep the door open for this type of communication and use the framework that Christina taught us.
It was far worth the financial investment! 10000000%. Like I said earlier, I thought my world was falling apart. I was building a whole new life in my head and actively grieving a relationship that I was still in. My partner was also grieving for where we might have been headed. Once Christina helped us identify the root issue, she was able to show us all of the ways that our relationship was really strong and solid. She gave us confidence that our love and respect for one another would allow us to work through this. Things have been so different since we talked with Christina.
After 1 call with Christina we felt so relieved. We both felt like the biggest weight had been lifted. We weren't living in limbo anymore. We could clearly see our challenges and were able to work together to address them. Our sex life improved almost instantly, our communication got better and we were back in alignment.
Christina is outstanding at what she does. As a person, she is warm, easy to talk to and knows how to create a safe space for vulnerability. She knows how to cut through the bullshit and help you realize what you actually want. Talking with her for 30 minutes accomplished what would have taken me so many hours of therapy to get to. She also has a depth of experience that's backed by research which is what makes her such a well-rounded coach. She comes prepared with an arsenal of tangible skills so that by the end of our time together, my partner and I had not only worked on our issues, but we had learned how to continue having these conversations on our own which is invaluable. Working with Christina, even for a short time has changed the way that my partner and I communicate with each other and we'll see the benefit of this investment for the rest of our lives.
Ashley T.